Showing posts with label real life romance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label real life romance. Show all posts

Friday, March 11, 2016

The Paper Kiss...The incredible true story of my last first kiss!

On release day for my debut I got to do some of my favorite things. First, release my first book baby into the world. Second, guest post on the Jaunty Quills Blog for one of my favorite NYT Bestsellers Kristan Higgins. Third, talk about kissing. ((Dreamy Sigh)) And I'm a firm believer no kiss should ever go to waste so I want to share this blog about my LAST FIRST KISS. **(Warning... this post contains red hot smooching!)**


“Two peoples’ lips together, their breath, a little bit of their soul…
A kiss is where the romance is.”

I have to agree with Meg Ryan’s character in one of my all-time favorite movies French Kiss. (If you haven’t seen it, buy or rent immediately!) Now, not all kisses are romantic, but whether in real life or in fiction it’s hard to deny that kisses are powerful things.

Admittedly, a tangible touch someone lays smack dab on your kisser is likely more exciting than reading about two people smooching in a book, though I’d argue to say a paper kiss puts an on-screen kiss to shame any day of the week for the sheer power of your imagination at work, but I digress.
We’re talking about kissing, one of my absolute favorite things to write, read, and shoot, partake in myself. Not all kisses are created equal, certainly. And a first kiss … whether the first ever, or the first with someone in particular, is irrevocably, epically significant—which is why it’s usually the most anticipated moment in a love story.

Those baited breaths, that suspended moment of longing, of doubt. The anticipation strung so tight your chest can barely contain your savage heart. And then… Wham! Lips touch, hearts collide, souls are shaken, and lives are changed. Or they’re not. But what I love about fiction is where that moment takes me. And this is where…

Forget about my first kiss. That was so far from magical it was practically tragic. Since I’m not much for shyness and I’m a die-hard romantic up to my ears in diapers and dirty laundry, let's talk about something swoon-worthy like a life-changing kiss.

If we rewind about ten years, before I married my handsome hunk of a husband and had three of his wonderfully exhausting children, you’d find me tutoring the college baseball player in statistics. This usually took place on campus or at a local coffeehouse. But while I waited for the blockhead to get a clue and ask me out on an actual date, we studied. Talked. Became friends. It was incredibly frustratingly awesome. And then one night we studied at his apartment where his rowdy roommates had us escaping to the quiet of his room whereupon we sat on his bed and actually studied statistics.

Totally romantic.

One would think this would be a convenient place to make his intentions known. But that wasn’t the man I was falling for. This was not an opportunistic moment for him. It was the foundation for a much bigger goal. So at the end of the night, when I was about ready to crawl out of my skin, he took my hand, walked me to my car, and then … asked if he could kiss me good night.

There was something spellbinding about that question. If I were writing the scene I knew I wouldn’t have had the hero ask. In my mind I'd have him be decisive and claim that kiss as if his life depended on the meeting of our lips rather than his show of superhuman restraint in making me grant him access to my pearly whites.

Funny thing about romance, it's not usually what we expect or what we've been programmed by fairy tales to think it should be. And perhaps therein lies the magic of falling. An equation can’t compute it. The variables, well, they vary. Statistics have no bearing. In other words, it’s beyond our control and the result is beautiful chaos.

In that moment, the brain and the jock were standing on the precipice. He’d taken the time to learn me before making his move, instinctively knowing I needed that moment to be something I couldn’t have written or planned or even braced myself for.

But now, I remember…

His endlessly deep voice like the rasp of a rosined bow over my nerve endings. The intensity in his moonlit brown eyes as he made himself vulnerable to me, laying his desire at my feet, surrendering his control. I was hypnotized, barely squeaking out a nod, falling like a wing-less fairy not bothering to reach for her pouch of fairy dust. I was a goner before he laid those gorgeous lips on me. My last first kiss. The cool autumn night a contrast to the cocoon of heat created with the man who was helping me write the most perfect first kissing scene I couldn’t begin to do justice with words.

It changed the course of my life in an instant. And I'm convinced we anxiously await that moment on the page because while it likely differs greatly from our own experience, and it isn’t meant to belittle or replace a perhaps less eloquent reality, what it does is transport us back to that pivotal moment in our story where we had no need for paper because we wrote the memory on our hearts. The paper kiss’s power lies in its ability to flood us with emotions and memories from those first inklings of falling. Of recognizing that shift in your heroine’s journey as if you were walking in her shoes and learning love all over again. That kiss…It’s more than tangled lips and shared breath. It’s nostalgia. That first flicker of promise, the first glimpse of happily ever after. It’s hope for the loved and the lonely alike. And sometimes all it takes is one beautiful kiss to light the way.

Anyone brave enough to kiss and tell? What is it YOU remember about that fateful moment? If you could take your best first kiss and put it on paper, one detail or the whole enchilada, how would it read?

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Amy Leigh Simpson writes romantic mysteries with honesty and humor, sweetness and spice, and gritty reality covered by grace. When she’s not stealing moments at naptime to squeeze out a few more adventures in storyland, she’s chasing around two tow-headed miscreants (Ahem)—boys, playing dress up with one sweet princess baby, and being the very blessed wife to the coolest, most swoon-worthy man alive. Amy is a Midwestern-girl, a singer, blogger, runner, coffee-addict, and foodie. Her Sports Medicine degree is wasted patching up daily boo boo’s, but whatever is left usually finds its way onto the page with fluttering hearts, blood and guts, and scars that lead to happily ever after.

Check out her debut romantic mystery novel WHEN FALL FADES available now for $3.99!

Friday, February 12, 2016

Hijacking Valentine's Day

We’re bearing down on V Day… ValenDATE or ValenDOOM. Most people are divided into one of two camps, some approaching the Hallmark Holiday with starry-eyed optimism and dozens of rose-tinted chances to experience the magic, others dreading the overinflated expectations and equally overinflated greeting card prices, resigning themselves to a day of loneliness or disappointment.

As a hopeless romantic, romance writer, extremely happily married gal, and general love bug, it may burst your love-bubble to know that Valentine’s Day is not exactly my bag. In fact, in my dating years I used to refer to it as Valendoom’s Day for the epically disastrous and disappointing outcomes the day always seem to bring as opposed to flowers (that die), chocolates (moment on the lips, forever on the hips, and still no, I'm not going halfsies--my present), and little blue boxes (keep on dreamin’, sugar).

In my married years Valendoom’s day has simply become Valendate night. Essentially, it’s an excuse to enlist a sitter and have a-slightly-less-casual dinner date with my hunk of burning love. It’s never been a drastically romantic, sweep-me-off-my-feet affair. It’s a lovely dinner. Eight years of marriage and I still enjoy dating my man. But the hype of the day itself can often make a perfectly nice meal seem a bit less …special.

That’s not to say that my husband got it all wrong, but he didn’t exactly spend a month and a small fortune planning some Hollywood-staged princess moment. When you write romance it can be hard to remember that our men’s words and actions aren’t scripted by a woman who knows exactly what would make her feel extravagantly loved for a day, if not a lifetime. Real life is messy, not always charming, and definitely not story-book perfect. But it’s even better because you get to live it, sink into the role you were born to play and ride out every high and low, bump and bliss.

Now, I still believe men should put in the effort for their sweetheart and really swing for the fences from time to time. Just because you’ve locked that down doesn’t mean you stop wooing your lady, got me?

But this year I decided to give my husband a year off. A break from the often unfair expectations and last minute scramble to appease my overly-romantic nature. I’ve hijacked Valentine’s Day, took over the plans (swanky dinner and dancing reservations at a unique venue), the gift exchange (new wallet for hubs, new purse for me—personally I think I got the better end of that deal!), and a special surprise for later (my lips are sealed <3). I’ve got to admit, I’m pretty stinkin’ excited about this. Probably more excited than the past few years of guarding my expectations, just in case.

Moral of the story, ladies: Sometimes, if you want romance, you have to bring it. Hijack those plans and make your man swoon for a change. ;) And men, be real and open. Say the things you might normally forget to mention about her dress and how much you appreciate her. Take a page out of a romance novel from time to time. (You're man enough to read one!) But know, without a doubt, it really is the thought that counts. You put your heart behind a gesture and you can’t lose.

Talk to me: What are your plans for V day? Do you have a tradition? And what side are you on… ValenDATE or ValenDOOM?

Love and Chocolate,
(and kisses... I never forget those)  ;)
<3 Amy

Friday, July 4, 2014

Sparks Fly


A bunch of old guys in powdered wigs signing the Declaration of Independence is a pretty big deal. Though I suppose when you think on it you associate the day with not only the historical significance but also modern day pyrotechnics, BBQ’s, county fairs, and summertime. I doubt many of you get that romantic tingle when you think of July 4th, but well, surprise surprise! I do! (I know, try not to faint from shock!) 

I’ve never had some grand romantic moment under a glittering burst of fireworks. Sure, I have fond memories of my childhood. And I still enjoy a nice display at the local parks. But that fire in the sky reminds me of a story…

A simple tale of love. That certain spark. When two people were brought together for their first date on this very day years back and saw fireworks. The very ones responsible for this writer and her hopeless romanticizing of just about everything.

My parents. :)

Who doesn’t love a first date story??? And better still, no matter what day of the year you commemorate such a monumentous first step toward love, who doesn’t remember those fireworks shooting through your veins when you realized the game had changed… This was it. Your life, as you knew it, was over.


And it all started with a spark!

Let’s talk non-fiction for a change! Do you have a good first date story? Did you see fireworks? Some of the very best inspiration for a writer is a real life romance. So come on, inspire me!


Happy 4th of July!!!!!

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Amy Leigh Simpson writes Romantic Suspense that is heavy on the romance, unapologetically honest, laced with sass and humor, and full of the unfathomable Grace of God. She is the completely sleep deprived mama to two little tow-headed mischief makers, one pretty little princess, and wife to her very own swoon-worthy hero. Represented by the oh-so-wise and dashing Chip MacGregor of MacGregor Literary Inc.