How to Break Up With Your Book {with Special Guest Jaime Wright}

Hi, everyone! It's Laurie. I'm still on maternity leave, enjoying my nine-pound boy cub born on March 30. In the meantime, I'm thrilled to host my writing sister Jaime Wright to The Alley today. She is a historical romantic suspense writer, selfie queen, coffee aficionado, NEWLY CONTRACTED WITH BARBOUR (!!!!), and one of the people I'm most grateful to do life and writing with :) Please give her a warm welcome!

I went through a bad break-up a few years ago. It was the best decision of my life. I broke up with my novel. Ended it. I determined that while I still loved it, being in a relationship with it was not the wisest decision. Because I couldn’t see straight. My vision was blurry. And any criticism I received became super personal.

Ok. Maybe that’s a horrible analogy, but you writers get my drift? When it comes to criticism, negative or positive, it can become an attack. A rampage on our personal ability, on a character we bled over, on a plot we thought was layered and deep, on a word we chose for just that perfect emotion. And then the red ink that drips off the page…

Criticism can be difficult to accept. Especially when we are so in love with our work that it consumes us. Once, a critique partner, one of my dear writing sisters, hacked an entire chapter from my book. The remark came back with (moderate paraphrase): “This slows it down. It confuses me why it’s here. In fact, this is a completely pointless chapter.”

Another writing sister puts remarks in the comments section with: “Blah, blah, blah”, “Omigosh, MORE questions? Can’t this character think for herself?”, “Bored. So bored.”, and “You’re going to need to kill off a character to make me keep reading this drivel”.

Ouch.

Or is it ouch? When I was married to my work and thought it was oh–so-wonderful, that would have been painful. But now, I see my work as … imperfect. Flawed. And I need relationship counseling. To make this novel be the best it can be, to strengthen it, to hone it, to maximize on its potential, I need to be open to looking inside it and identifying its weakness.

This means three major implications:

Develop Relational Boundaries: My book does not define ME. When a critique partner, an agent, an editor, or God forbid, my DAD, points out a flaw or an area of opportunity, it is not a reflection on me. No one is pointing past the book to me and shouting “YOU STINK!” Ok. Maybe that one negative reviewer that should be banned from Amazon ‘cause they’re a complete jerk, but otherwise, most people tend to give honest feedback with the intent to help. That’s why it’s called feedback. They feed back to us information we can take, disseminate, and implement. All to create a novel that grows from its good foundation to a better foundation.

Accept the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly: In any relationship, there are aspects that are good, some that are bad, and some that are downright horrendous. Like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, there’s that disability in our novel that screams “FIX ME” and yet sometimes we can’t see it. But others can. Unfortunately, we often want to focus on our vision on the good and maybe some bad, but going to that ugly means scraping off the scabs and causing us to bleed. But it’s necessary. Like cutting that boring chapter that put my critique partner to sleep. Best. Surgical procedure. Ever.

Embrace Change: Change is important in any relationship. In the writing world, that doesn’t necessarily mean jumping genres as much as it embraces the concept that as you exercise your writing vocal chops, your writing will change. And it should change. Change is a good thing and should be a welcome thing. When the editor asks you to change your heroine’s name, weigh it out on the scale of importance. Really. Is that name worth arguing over? When the critique partners suggest cutting several paragraphs of scene-setting descriptors, ask yourself: will this change positively affect the outcome? 

Too often, we bristle. Don’t they know how long it took me to research wallpaper in 1892 and the exact pattern that would have been popular in a New Jersey Victorian home? Instead of: Okay, so I enjoyed the research, but maybe three paragraphs of explanation regarding Victorian wallpaper is a tad too much.

Last but not least, it’s also important to remember that breaking-up with your novel doesn’t mean you can’t get back together. Sometimes the best relationships are forged through adversity. Not to mention, sometimes the best perspectives are formed by looking from the outside in. Fresh eyes, new ideas, and critical thinking can take a good book and make it a great book.

So, avoid that life-sucking relationship with your novel that keeps you from growth and pushes you toward the uncomfortable. It’s in the uncomfortable you sometimes find that masterpiece awaiting you.

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Professional coffee drinker Jaime Wright resides in the hills of Wisconsin writing spirited and gritty turn-of-the-century romance stained with suspense. Her day job finds her a Director of Associate Sales, Development & Relations. She’s wife to a rock climbing, bow-hunting youth pastor, mom to a coffee-drinking little girl and a Sippy cup-drinking baby boy, and completes her persona by being an admitted Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Blogspot junkie.

Jaime is a member of ACFW, enjoys mentorship from a best-selling author, and has the best critique partners EVER! (Yes, that's an exclamation point.) She was a semifinalist in ACFW’s 2013 Genesis contest and that alone encouraged excessive celebration over extra espresso with hazelnut syrup.

In her "down time", Jaime reads voraciously, socializes incessantly, drinks coffee addictively, and overuses "-ly" words excessively.

Links:

Website: http://www.jaimewrightbooks.com

Group blog: http://coffeecupsandcamisoles.blogspot.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/jaimewrightbooks

Twitter: Jaime_wright

Pinterest: jaimewright01

Tips for Revisiting a Shelved Manuscript

This week, I'm working on getting my manuscript back to my agent with edits. It was a lot harder to dust it off when I hadn't really looked at it in months. And since then, I've been working on a project with a completely different tone, POV, and tense, so it took a little adjustment!

I'm sure you've read about this topic before, but here's some advice I've collected about returning to a project after an absence, whether you're revisiting edits, restarting a project that had been shelved for another, or reviving something you once believed was dead. The process is different for everyone, but hopefully you'll find something that works for you. It's worth a try. I promise!

Step 1 (for me): Reread what I've already written like I'm reading a book by a different author. To get back into the "voice" of my story and be able to successfully pick up where I've left off, I reread what I've written as removed as possible for a few purposes. I see if there are any major elements like choppy flow or inconsistencies that need to be fixed later (not yet!), but I mainly do this to see if it provides inspiration for how to continue the story.

Write off-script. If something inspires a non-canonical scene between my characters that has nothing to do with the intended timeline of the story or events in the envisioned plot, I write it anyway. If it helps me get reacquainted with my characters, it's worth it. And most of the time, I discover fun new layers to them, which gives them more depth in the actual story. Rewriting a meaningful scene from a different character's POV can also have this effect.

Don't be afraid to start from scratch. Even though it can be agonizing to cut precious word count and can feel like the most dejecting, derailing thing you can do to lose steam on a project (is this only me?), I'd venture to say that it's almost always more advantageous and timely to start an ailing scene over from scratch than to try to fix an existing mess.

Remember that you've grown as a writer since you started this project. Honoring that in all of your decisions ensures you produce the best story you're capable of producing! This technically was supposed to go with the last point, but I think it's important enough to deserve its own section!

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Since I'm a self-professed "recovering know-it-all", I thought I'd open the floor to advice from some of my experienced author friends on returning to a manuscript, including the benefits some distance can provide. It's rehabilitating for me and educational for you :) Here's what they had to say:

Brandy Vallance, award-winning author of The Covered Deep (Releasing TODAY!!):

I came back to The Covered Deep after a lot of time had passed, and I actually rewrote about 60% of it (I think that was draft six?). Try to get tension on every page. Always heighten your scenes--make them bigger, bolder, and raise the stakes. Bring in the five senses. Layer your plot. And always portray real emotions. 

Carla Laureano, RITA® Award-winning author of Five Days in Skye and Oath of the Brotherhood:

Stepping away from a manuscript allows me to approach the story from the outside, as a reader and not a writer. I deliberately build some ' shelf time' into my writing process because I find it makes me a clearer and more efficient editor. 

Nicole Deese, inspirational contemporary romance author of the Letting Go series and A Cliche Christmas:

When you're rereading, don't look at all the things you know you need to fix like all the improved craft techniques and flaws of early writing. Read at least three excerpts from each of your characters. Read high and low moments. Emotional moments. The black moment if you have one written. Fall back in love with your characters.

Jessica Keller, multi-published author of Searching for Home, the Goose Harbor Series, the TimeShifters series, and more. 

Time away from a manuscript that isn't working helps me because, when I come back, I can see the characters in a fresh way and spot plot issues right away. Weird thing here - I make music mixes for every manuscript. I'll walk away from writing and when I decide to come back to it (or am forced to for deadline), I listen to the music mix for a day or two before I start writing. It helps me get in the characters' mind frames and understand their emotions. For some reason I can always finish the book after that. 

Jaime Wright, historical romantic suspense author represented by Mary Keeley of Books & Such Literary:

Returning to a stalled or shelved manuscript can be like returning to an old friend. If you can see the potential of a continued relationship and growing along with each other, the renewed friendship doesn't seem nearly as daunting. (And a good cup of coffee always helps to bind you together.)

Amanda G. Stevens, author of Seek and Hide, Book 1 of the Haven Seekers series:

The key for me is to get back into the character's head. What is he thinking/feeling at the point I left off, what is his goal, and how far will he go to get it? Sometimes I'll get past the stall by hand-writing that next scene in first person, present tense in a notebook (my books are third person, past tense). That gives me an instant POV link. I let the character ramble as much as they want. Pretty much I just free-write until I'm no longer stuck. Then I'll go back, of course, and rewrite it to third/past. As an extension of the "character interview" process, I have asked a character, "What is wrong with you, _________? Why won't you do what I want?" And I write out the character's reasons for not cooperating with me. That often shows me what they DO want or what they WILL do after I check off numerous things they won't do. So from there, I just started writing the scene itself in first person and I got results way faster.

What are some of YOUR best tips for reviving an older project? Is there one in your life that keeps coming back to you?

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Laurie Tomlinson is a wife and mom from Tulsa, Oklahoma, who enjoys stories of grace in the beautiful mess. She is a member of the American Christian Fiction Writers and received the Genesis Award in 2013 (Contemporary) and 2014 (Romance). Her work is represented by Rachel Kent of Books & Such Literary.

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