Welcome, Varina!!
As a child, my favorite stories were Cinderella, Sleeping
Beauty, and Snow White. Each was a magical fairy tale of a beautiful princess saved
by a handsome (and seemingly perfect) Prince Charming. I would read and watch
these stories repeatedly, never tiring of the predictable plot because—every time,
without fail—the prince saved the damsel, and true love reigned eternal.
When I hit my teen years, I embraced the quest to find my
own prince, and soon I married, planning to live happily ever after. Except I didn’t.
Sure, my husband was a prince and we were happily married, but my life was no
fairy tale. Marriage is difficult, and real men are not storybook characters.
It took me a while to realize I had placed my prince on a
pedestal, setting him up for a fall. And it took me even longer to realize I
should have placed God on that place of honor long before I went looking for a
husband. I had things twisted up a bit, but God and my husband were patient
while I figured it out.
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So as I work my revisions and edits, I whittle and polish my
hero. If he’s incredibly handsome, then I won’t allow him to be hugely
successful. If he’s the CEO of a pharmaceutical company, then he may end up
with a receding hair line. If he always
says the right thing to make the girl feel better, then he probably has trouble
holding down a job. In short, I make the guy REAL.
This is no fun. It reminds me too much of real life when I’d
rather disappear into blissful storyland. However, I resist the urge to write
perfect stories with perfect characters because of my tendency to get my
priorities out of alignment. If I spend eight hours a day creating a flawless man,
it makes my real-life husband pale in comparison. (Even though he’s remarkable)
So instead, I write real men—like my real husband—and at the
end of the day when I shut down the laptop, my imperfect hero reminds me that
even though life is difficult and real men are flawed, it’s all right. This
damsel will still be saved. Because my first love, my true Prince Charming, my
savior ... is the Lord Jesus Christ.
You can learn more about Varina at her website - www.varinadenman.com
You can learn more about Varina at her website - www.varinadenman.com
Thanks for hosting me, Pepper. I love your blog!
ReplyDeleteSo glad to have you here, Varina! And congratulations on your book!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad that God gives grace, strength, and healing to those of us who know the sting of pain from our own 'Family'.
And I LOVE writing imperfect heroes. They may be close - but the only perfect Hero is our Savior :-)
So glad to have you here, Varina! There is much to love about a great hero--I personally love the bad boy turned good in my fiction. Thank you for sharing your insight!
ReplyDeleteVarina,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed readying your visits to other blogs, including mine. Your story here on the Writer's Alley is a-mazing! What an absolute truth you've told...people are real. This is such an important component for writers to grasp.
Thank you Varina for joining us today!