Now, I know you are wondering how on earth I can make these
title topics cohesive. You’ll have to read on and see….
The Plank
Arrgh! I spend my day with little boys so inevitably my mind
goes to something like this. My apologies.
So a plank is something people walk before they jump, or are
pushed off of into the shark infested waters below, right? Pirates, and
whatnot. When we—as writers, professionals, doctors, singers, musicians, pretty
much anything—put ourselves “out there,” our dreams essentially become damsels
clinging to a flimsy board over open seas.
Sometimes someone says something, rejects you, fires you,
and it is enough of a poke to send you over the edge in to the crushing waves
below. Swimming in rejection is not at all fun. And sometimes, we are tossed,
wave after wave, struggling to keep our head above water. Clinging to a
life-raft like hope, maybe stubbornness, or perhaps even delusions of grandeur,
in wait of a slice of land, or a passing yacht that might bring about some
shift of fortune.
Whether you are on the plank or in the water, you are in a
vulnerable place, my friend.
But I got to thinking about that wooden board. What if
instead of a plank, it’s a diving board? -And why are all the metaphors about
water always about drowning and struggling to find the surface? I like
swimming. I find it refreshing.
What if we view those failures as some super sweet exercise? And we think about that dark sea writhing beneath you like a clear blue lap lane…
What if we view those failures as some super sweet exercise? And we think about that dark sea writhing beneath you like a clear blue lap lane…
So often, we can learn,
tone, and refocus
when we hit that water and tool around long enough to get pruney. It’s great
cardio, by the way!
Now, hold on to those thoughts about your plank for a few moments while we move on
to the next glamorous point.
Pimple-picking
I never had that crazy combination skin, thank you Jesus! But there were, and
still are, those occasions when my inner Venus manifests as a sort of pubescent
boy. Zits! Ick!
I banished that mega-magnifying makeup mirror years ago
because I honestly don’t like to scare myself with that much microscopic truth.
I don’t know about you but when I’m feeling great, or I’ve
had a good day, I wash my face, brush my teeth and crawl into bed without a
second glance.
BUT… when I’m feeling particularly worn-out, stressed,
vulnerable, or maybe rejected, I pick. Yes, I’m a picker. I lean in, scan my
clean pasty complexion until I can find someway to squeeze out my frustration.
Anyone else do this?
I create problems for myself this way. There might be a tiny
clogged pore that that no one would ever see, and yet, when I’m at my worst, I
pick at it, I inflame the situation. I take one tiny speck and turn it into the
giant red blob.
Now I’m gonna bring these points home by Preachin’ to the Choir…
How many times have you felt this way when someone tells you
that “God’s got a plan.” “All in God’s time.” Or even “Well, God’s in control.”
Yeah, yeah. We know that. I’m pretty sure that was ingrained
in Sunday school rhyme-time or song-circle.
But the point of all this is for you to see how YOUR
perspective changes everything!
Sometimes when those rejection letters come back, it’s difficult to see God’s perspective—His plan for your time in the pit.
Sometimes when those rejection letters come back, it’s difficult to see God’s perspective—His plan for your time in the pit.
Yes, we can rationalize that His timing is perfect. His plans
are to prosper and never harm. But sometimes God’s plans feel painful. They push us out on that scary ledge. They expose
some microscopic insecurity and turn it into a mountain that you walk around
with on your face for all to see.
Now, I don’t want to preach at y’all but the Word is a
pretty good defense against our perceptions…
We
demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the
knowledge of God, and we take
captive every thought to make it obedient to
Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5
And…
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and
approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
You see, our minds and
emotions can be frail when allowed to swim in the deep end all
alone. It’s like flailing around like tasty shark-bait for the enemy.
But YOU
have the power to change your perspective.
To see that plank as your
spring board.
To view those waters of
rejection as a way to firm up those muscles for the long road ahead.
To refuse to let those
little snags in your reflection rise up and define who you are and what you can
become.
In the wake of some bad
news God showed me that I could spin my perception of that rejection into
something empowering and truly encouraging.
Give it a try. The view
from the other side is great and the water is quite nice.
Talk to me: When was the last time you turned lemons into lemonade? How do you defend against those planks and pimples in life that tend to skew our perspective? Or what scripture encourages you the most when things look bleak?
Talk to me: When was the last time you turned lemons into lemonade? How do you defend against those planks and pimples in life that tend to skew our perspective? Or what scripture encourages you the most when things look bleak?
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Amy Leigh Simpson writes Romantic Suspense that is heavy on the romance, unapologetically honest, laced with sass and humor, and full of the unfathomable Grace of God. She is the completely sleep deprived mama to two little mischief makers and would challenge anyone to a cutest family contest. Represented by Chip MacGregor of MacGregor Literary Inc.
I love this post, Amy! The great thing about perspective is we have complete control over it. Each day, I make an effort to choose to be happy by emphasizing the small victories and blessings rather than focusing on the not so good things. There's always something to be thankful for, even in those dark times.
ReplyDeleteI love this post, Amy. You chose my one word for the year to write about: PERSPECTIVE. Thanks for giving me much to think about today. :)
ReplyDeleteJill- So often we don't claim that control and life just seems to start happening TO us. Love your thoughts here!! Thanks for opening up the conversation this fine Friday!
ReplyDelete:) I'm so glad, Jeanne! Good word for the year!
ReplyDeleteLove this post, ma'am. But I love all of yours! Beautiful heart shining through. Thanks for this reminder on perspective. Super timely as I have two zits, currently, and I HATE heights/diving boards/planks.
ReplyDeleteBut lately I have been discovering my inner pirate princess ;)
In all seriousness...you're right. Perspective is key, and when we choose GOD'S perspective, we experience such freedom. If His perspective is truth (and it IS) then why would we view our "X" as ANYTHING else??? The devil is so dang sneaky.
Thanks for pulling back the veil today!
K, first, I don't think your beautiful face has ever had a pimple. Just sayin'. ;)
ReplyDeleteSecond, love this. It's so true that we can either get discouraged and give up--or thrash about or make things worse for ourselves--or use the seemingly negative experiences to make us stronger.
So happy you stopped by, Bets! We were on the same wavelength today ;)
ReplyDeleteAh haha! Inner pirate princess--cute!
We DO have to constantly be on guard, when the enemy finds a weakness, he does everything he can to exploit it. But the truth is that he is completely powerless when we can keep on eyes on Jesus! Take that, Satan!
Hah! Linds, if only that were true. It's just so unfair being a woman sometimes ;) Also pretty awesome though too!
ReplyDeleteYou are right, God uses everything! Nothing is wasted for the kingdom when we can see His plan through it all. Thanks, always, for stopping by to post your thoughts. You rock!
Hi Amy,
ReplyDeleteGreat post today. I think perspective is so important. It is far too easy to look at circumstances and get discouraged, instead of looking to Jesus-"The author and finisher of our faith." There are so many encouraging scriptures, it's hard to pick one. "Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ>" Philippians 1:6.
Amy, what a fabulous post!!! Your analogies are great!! Often, I let bad news suck me under a bit, or give me reason to pick, but once I finally stop my whining and bring it to God, the rejection becomes a vitamin to grow me. It's a cycle I hope to refine to only the positive, and stop allowing the piracy and pimplefest to be a part of it!!
ReplyDeleteDeb- I love that verse!! Thanks so much for sharing!
ReplyDeleteAng- It's sooo tough to stand up under bad news. Even harder to see as anything other than what it seems. But God's perspective is eternal... and so much better! Sometimes we don't get to understand, but we can trust that all things work together for His good. Even bad things. :)
Great post, Amy! It's true that it can be all too easy to look at the depths of the water we feel like we're falling into rather than seeing things like rejections as opportunities in their own right. :D
ReplyDeleteGreat job, Amy on this post! I confess that I am not a fan of the water and my swimming skills are lousy. But I really like the way you used this metaphor for the writing life. One thing I love about so many of these posts is they are applicable to our writing, but many other aspects spiritually.
ReplyDeleteAmen, Amy - love it! Very applicable to me this week as I dive in to some shark-infested waters of my own... and discover that the sharks are all in my own mind, which is the hardest battleground of all, but the one we have full control over. (How's that for a mixed metaphor.) ;)
ReplyDeleteThanks Ash! It's hard to see through the hurt, but everything can be a learning opportunity if we let it!
ReplyDeleteAnd Jules, you are right! So much of what we put here transcends the writing life! Oh, yeah. When there is no lifeguard on duty, stay in the shallow end and work your way out into deeper water with practice :)
Oh, I totally agree, Karen! Our minds can be the most dangerous battlefields we face! That's why we cling to the Word and take every thought captive. Well, we try ;) that's is much easier said than done!
ReplyDeleteGREAT encouragement here, Amy!!!
ReplyDeleteWOW!!
And a DIVING BOARD instead of a PLANK - oh man, you could have spent another 1000 words on bringing out the perspective in THAT one!
SUCH a wonderful encouragement for us! Thanks
Great post, Amy. But I am so sorry to hear you've had bad news. I'm rooting for you! My newest mantra is "Joy is a decision." One of my favorite verses pinned to my writing desk: Heb 10:35-36 "So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised."
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