“They were under royal orders, which determined their daily activity.” Nehemiah 11:23
You are under royal orders.
God has a destiny and purpose for your life. He has a plan
that only YOU can fulfil on this earth. Many of you already know your purpose.
(If you don’t, here’s a classic book that will help bring you some
clarity.)
But does your purpose determine how you live your daily
life?
Here’s some news for you.
God wants you to achieve your purpose.
If it’s writing – God wants you to write.
If it’s mothering – God wants you to mother.
If it’s leading others – God wants you to lead.
If it’s helping, encouraging, serving, teaching, whatever
the case may be – God wants you to get the necessary training and skills and
live it out to the best of your abilities.
For a lot of us, there’s a chasm between our life purpose
and our current reality. Why? Because it’s easy to think of our dreams as
something far-off and grandiose. Something we’ll get around to “one day.” When
we seem unable to reach our full potential, it’s easy to blame the usual
culprits – our current circumstances, our limitations, our finances, the
abilities we were born with, or of course, our lack of time.
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Ah, time. We’ve all been gifted with the same amount of it.
And how we use it is, of course, the key. The power to achieve our dreams
doesn’t lie in the next self-help book or the next motivational speaker to pray
over you at church. It lies in our daily habits.
It’s that simple. Your habits determine your destiny.
I love that verse I shared at the start from the book of
Nehemiah, because it tells me that the little stuff matters to God. The
daily routine, the things we do over and over again, day in and day out – that’s the seemingly unimportant stuff that shapes our
destiny. And because we’re under royal orders from the King of
Kings, our daily activity had better reflect our respect for what he wants to
accomplish in our lives.
Oh, boy, am I ever preaching to myself here.
And here is exactly where a lot of us start to feel a bit
defeated. The problem most of us have when we look at our lives is the dozen
different things screaming simultaneously for improvement. So typically, in a
burst of enthusiasm, we decide to make a drastic 24-hour turnaround in which we
will overhaul absolutely everything in our life. We decide we’ll go from
couch-potato junk-food-eater to organic vegan athlete overnight, pray for an
hour a day, home-school our children Montessori-style while also teaching them
Suzuki violin and studying on the side, de-clutter the house from top to
bottom, volunteer at a homeless shelter, and while we’re at it, we’ll also
write ten thousand words every day on our novel while doing one-handed
push-ups.
Um… yeah.
Lean in a little closer and I’ll tell you a secret. This is
important. It’s a secret that has the potential to change your life.
Here it is.
If you want to change your life, focus on changing ONE
THING.
Did you get that?
One thing. No
cheating. Not three things, or even just two.
Start with one.
Do that one thing every day for a month. Chart your
progress. (Try using a chart like THIS one.) If you miss a day, begin again.
This allows you to truly master that habit and make it a part of your life.
Then, once you’ve successfully incorporated one new habit
into your life for a whole month, the following month you can focus on
changing one more thing.
Are you getting this? Sure, it takes time to do it this way.
But look at the end result. Do you want your habits to actually stick? Or do
you want to continue down the path you’ve always gone - trying to change
everything, and actually changing nothing?
So… are you up for a challenge?
Here’s how this is going to work.
1. Choose a habit
Choose one habit you’d like to incorporate into your life.
It doesn’t matter how small or insignificant it may seem to someone else. This
is YOUR life, and small, consistent action is better than no action. Here are
some examples:
- To write 500 words a day.
- To make your bed every morning as soon as you get up.
- To spend 15 minutes of quality time with each child, every
day.
- To get up half an hour earlier to have a daily Quiet Time.
- To exercise for 20 minutes a day, even if it’s just
jogging around your clothesline.
- To deal with an email as soon as you open it.
- To wash the dishes each night before you go to bed.
- To spend 15 minutes a day de-cluttering or organizing an
area of your house.
- To drink 8 glasses of water a day.
- To make a menu plan and cook dinner every week-night
instead of ordering takeaway.
You might look at that list and want to do all of those
things, and more. But don’t be tempted to fall into that old approach.
Choose one. Just one. Chances are, your one habit might look
completely different from the things on this list. That’s okay. Choose one
thing that is meaningful to you, that will ultimately help you toward your
purpose. One small thing you know you can
accomplish.
2. Make a plan
You may need to plan your day into a routine to find the
time to incorporate your new habit. My One Word for this year was ABIDE.
With three preschool age children, I knew that spending time with God each day
was not just going to happen. So I drew up a routine. (See left). Every day we
have different scheduled activities, so each day is slightly different. But by
following my routine, I have been able to stick with a quiet time every day.
Once I had that down, I worked on my next priority – spending quality “Focus”
time with my kids each day, one on one. This, too, had to find a place in the
routine, or it would not happen.
Now that these two areas have become a habit, it’s time for
me to carve out
time for my writing again. It’s taken me a while to find my feet with this after baby number three, but I know that it’s time. That will be my focus for this challenge. So, I drew myself up a star chart. I know, I know. I’m a nerd. I’m also a teacher. It’s a teacher thing. Why should our kids get all the shiny gold stars?
time for my writing again. It’s taken me a while to find my feet with this after baby number three, but I know that it’s time. That will be my focus for this challenge. So, I drew myself up a star chart. I know, I know. I’m a nerd. I’m also a teacher. It’s a teacher thing. Why should our kids get all the shiny gold stars?
3. Share the challenge!
None of us are born disciplined. It’s a state that goes
against our natural inclinations. So why not share this with a friend, and get
them to jump on board too? Let’s get some momentum going and cheer each other
on.
When you comment on this post, your name will be entered into a draw
for a $10 Amazon gift card. Tweet or Facebook this post, and you’ll get an
additional two entries per share. Check
back in two weeks’ time, and we’ll take stock together and see how we’re all
going – and you’ll have another chance to throw some more entries into the hat.
In four weeks time, we’re going to celebrate together as we look at what new
habits we’ve incorporated into our lives. If you’ve stuck with your plan that
whole time, I’ll double your entries. Then I’ll draw a winner.
Don’t you just love a bit of extra incentive? But you know
what? If you take this challenge, you’re already a winner. It’s your life,
and you only get one of them to use. Let’s
choose to glorify God through our daily habits.
So, let’s get started. In the comments, why don’t you share
the one new habit you’d like to
incorporate into your life?
Instead of doing nothing about everything, do something
about one thing.
You can do that. I know you can.
Who’s with me?
Karen Schravemade lives Downunder and likes to confuse her American friends by using weird Australian figures of speech. When she's not chasing after two small boys or cuddling her baby girl, she spends her spare minutes daydreaming about the intricate lives of characters who don't actually exist. Find her on her website and Twitter.
This is such a great idea! I feel inspired! I am going to try and do one good thing for every member of my family every day. Whether that be washing the dishes, changing a diaper, or anything else they need help with, I am going to do something good for everyone.
ReplyDeleteI love this, Charity! Have fun with the challenge - glad you're on board!
ReplyDeleteKaren,
ReplyDeleteThis is an awesome post! Discipline doesn't come naturally to me for sure. For the last few weeks our new habit has been giving each subject a specific time block for homeschooling. That has been pretty successful. This week my new habit has been to add 15 minutes of Noah's school into each hour block. Trying to figure out how to balance him in the mix before we start Kindergarten with him in the Fall. And I have plenty more habits to work on when I'm done with those. Thanks so much, this is a great post, Karen :)
Karen, I love this post--it's right up my alley of being an organizer. Okay, I have my first "one thing." I'm going to spend 10 minutes a day decluttering our house. I just blogged about this yesterday, and I need to put feet to my words. I'm beginning today. I'm so glad you shared this. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm going to post it on Facebook and Twitter. :) Thanks for sharing it!
Hi Karen,
ReplyDeleteHow true is this! I want to write better, mediate, lose weight, exercise, ... I could go on and on. But each thing requires so much energy.
So focusing on ONE thing is brilliant.
Thanks for the tips!
Sue
Great post! Yes, one thing. I do tend to try three or four "little" things, that should be easy because they are "little." But failure follows. Ha.
ReplyDeleteKaren, I just love your post today, and I think it's so true! We can become overwhelmed when we think of all the changes we'd like to make in our lives, so we just do nothing instead. But little steps make all the difference. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteJulia, I love hearing about what you're doing on the home front with those kiddos of yours. Hats off to homeschooling Mums - you are amazing!!
ReplyDeleteJeanne, cool! You can do a lot in 10 minutes. I bet your house looks amazing by the time we're done. Let us know how you go! And thank you for sharing! Extra entries into the hat for you. ;-)
ReplyDeleteSusan Anne, exactly. Energy! One thing we never seem to have quite enough of. Staring down everything at once not only feels overwhelming, it really does sap our energy levels. But succeeding at one thing gives us a burst of energy that helps us along to our next goal.
ReplyDeleteCindy Q, oh, you bet we can all identify with that! Thank you for commenting, and all the best with the challenge!
ReplyDeleteAshley, yes, as a very "all or nothing" person, that has been my downfall many a time! I'm learning that small steps are good. I've just gotta be a bit more patient. :-)
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